Leader..... Born or Made

What is it to become a leader? Or How to become a leader? This are the most common question to all people who aims to be on top of others...

Well, everybody thinks they are a leader but most are far from it. The harsh reality is that we live in a world with wannable leaders. As much as some don't want to admit it, not everyone can or should become a leader. Simply desiring to be a leader doesn't mean a person has the character, skill and courage necessary to be a leader.

Several times I was being asked of what it takes to be on top, was I a born leader or did I make it to be a leader? My answer is, a leader is born and made. There are inherent characters and talents coming from our parents yet it was not nourished and developed, however some where able to discover it at the early stage and that prompts them to pursue it, trying to find and do things that will enhance through education and experience. Leadership is learned behavior that becomes unconscious and automatic over time. Many people wonder how leaders know how to make the best decisions, often under immense pressure. The process of making these decisions come from an accumulation of experiences and encounters with a multitude of different circumstances, personality types and unforseen failures. 

But a question like how could a  leader makes a sound and wise decision? A good leader could make a sound and wise decisions when he decides according to these two RIGHTS! So what are these two rights mean?

          1. RIGHT - being in accordance with what is just, good or proper. ( being upright and righteous)

          2. RIGHT - are legal, social or ethical principles of freedom or entitlement. ( it shows ownership)

A good question to start with in making decision is asking himself like; Am I doing these because this is my right? Or am I doing these because this is right? If both are being answered by YES, then a leader makes a sound and wise decision. But it doesn't stop there, in fact I never cease to be amazed at the number of people in leadership positions that shouldn't be there. Likewise, I've stopped being surprised when those charged with leadership development can't seem to figure out what constitutes a leader. A good leader should possess the following characteristics:

     1. Leaders should perform - they should get the job done and consistently exceed expectations.

     2. Leaders should always care - indifference is a characteristics that should not be suited in a leader

    3. Leaders should not take credit instead give it - he should always use the word WE when referring to success and I when accepting responsibilities and failures.

     4. Should care more about the people not on the process - people are not machine they are human so that they will be treated as human.

          5. Leaders should always look at the higher purpose not chasing on the position - value more on the service not on self - interest.

Therefore, LEADERS are born and at the same time made. Unless, you possess at least those qualities and characteristics mention, then you are not a leader.

Ash Wednesday... Almsgiving, Prayer, & Fasting.

How does anyone mean about Ash Wednesday?

Is it about fasting? Is it about religion? Is it about pretending to be a God fearing? Is it about sacrificing?  Well, maybe one could have a good answer about Ash wednesday by reading the Gospel of Matthew Chapter 6:1-6, 16-18 to wit;

Jesus said to his disciples, "Take care not to perform righteous deeds in order that people may see them; otherwise, you will have no recompense from your heavenly father. When you give Alms, do not blow a trumpet before you, as the hyprocites do in the synagogues and in the streets to win the praise of others. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give Alms, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing, so that your almsgiving may be secret. And your father who sees in secret will repay you.

"When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, who love to stand ad pray in the synagogues and on steet corners so that others may see them. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door and pray to your father in secret. And your father who sees in secret will repay you.

When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites. They neglect their appearance, so that they may appear to others to be fasting. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, so that you may not appear to be fasting, except to your father who is hidden. And your father who sees what is hidden will repay you."

End of verse.....

Reflections:

ALMSGIVING, PRAYER, FASTING. these are the three traditional acts of piety that we are urged to perform as we enter the Lenten season. These practices are truly religious acts, i,e., they draw us closer to God only if they are done for God's glory. But these acts also present us with a great temptation to seek our own glory isntead of God's. Thus, we must remember to do these things "for God's  eyes only."

To seek to draw attention to ourselves when we give allms, pray or fast is to devalue those actions. To do them in order to earn praise from people is to lose the reward that matters, from God.

LENT SEASON:

L - let us

E - eliminate all

N - negative

T - thoughts and talks.

My Special Child Reignheart Beau: Friend, fake or real? take your pick......

My Special Child Reignheart Beau: Friend, fake or real? take your pick......: "A single hand that wipes your tears is better than the thousand hands who clap at your success. For in your darkest and lowest moment, ...

Friend, fake or real? take your pick......

"A single hand that wipes your tears is better than the thousand hands who clap at your success. For in your darkest and lowest moment, you'll never be left alone by those who are real to you".

Not all people that sorrounds you whom you considered as friends are real, they might be around during your times of glory, they normally joins your success, happy for your achievements, they will run in a hurry extending their hands saying congratulations for a job well done, yelling their support when you almost reach your star! But are these same people who will comfort and stay by your side  when times get rough and tough?  Are these same people will journey with you when you feel that the road seems no endless where you can see but nothing is darkness? Are these same people will offer their shoulder for you to lean on and offer their hands for you to reach out?  Or are these same people who turn their backs on you when you feel like you want to cry!

Be skeptic and be careful, you might be frustrated at the end. Those people who joins your success, happy for your achievements, shows their support and yelling their cheers were the last person to find when you are in deep trouble and in need. Treasure the first person who wipes your tears and remains on your side through    thick and thin for they are real and genuine friend,   surely they will never leave  and will stay with you till the end. So don't be afraid with your enemy for you will expect them to attack you, but instead be afraid with those fake friends that will hug and kiss you for they will attack behind your back.